#58 Accept That Life Is Messy

Life is messy…literally and figuratively. The sooner you accept the mess the sooner you learn to handle it. I don’t want you to live in a slob like state. Do your dishes, wash your clothes, tidy up your home for sure. However, you need to realize that sometimes in order to truly live you have to get a little messy.

Relationships don’t always make sense and fairy tale endings can happen but not usually in the wonderful linear method our story books tell us about. Jobs can be tense and school can be too! Things will happen that are outside of your control. Things that break your heart like the loss of a loved one, and things that vault you to new highs such as achieving a goal you have been striving towards for a very long time. If you spend all of your time trying to “tidy up” your life and control every element of it, you will be stressed and weary well before your years. I hope you learn at a young age that sometimes things happen, things that we don’t deserve, things that we can’t control–but we can control how we react to them. That’s the key. Accepting the mess and doing our best.

I love the age that you are at right now. When you make a mess, it is as if you are oblivious that the mess even exists. You simply alter what your doing to adapt to it..and any mess you can’t clean up or work around you just ignore. You have no anxiety or OCD regarding the messes you make and it makes you live and play without restraint. I hope you know how fabulous you are when you live without fear of the mess and how easy all the messes are to clean up, even if they take a little time.

Here you are painting at 15 months..you didn’t mind your hands looked like a priceless Picasso…and I would be lying if I said your stomach wasn’t painted to match 🙂

 

#54 Do Things You Aren’t Good At

I want you to find things that you enjoy and are good at–and I want you to have a blast doing them. With that said, I also hope that you will challenge yourself to reach new heights, to not be afraid to challenge yourself, to not fear the fact that you may very well fail at something. It’s okay.

Those things that we aren’t good at–have a lot to teach us. They teach us about humility, they help us to expand our skills and knowledge, they help us become better than we were the day before.

This is coming from someone who hates being bad at things. I don’t have to be the best–but I want to at least be proficient at everything I do. It took me a long time to accept that sometimes that would mean having to work for it. I’m a horrible cook–but I’ve been working on it and while I’ll never be on “Top Chef” I can at least provide for my family now. It wasn’t always like that, and I still do things like burn rice, mix ingredients wrong, and make several other entertaining mistakes..but I’m getting better!

Young daughter, don’t fear the edge of your comfort zone. Stretch yourself, push yourself, allow others to teach you, and don’t be afraid of not being “good enough” because for every thing you will struggle with you will find something else you rock at.

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